It’s important to understand the difference between the shortcomings we want to be removed versus the defects of character. Things you act out upon or certain reactions are defects of character. Conversely, shortcomings are the things you are not doing to achieve your potential. For example, not littering anymore would be removing the defect of
Lexie is Aftercare and Alumni Supervisor for Lakeview Health. As someone in long-term sobriety herself, she enjoys helping others begin their journey into recovery.Lexie Leehan has written 7 articles so far, you can find them below.
Step 6: Becoming a New Person
This step is actually one of the shortest steps in The Big Book because it’s a pretty simple step. My sponsor told me all I needed to do was literally be ready to have my Higher Power remove my defect of character. Step 4 and 5 help you figure out what your defects of character are,
Sobriety with a Clean Slate: Working Step Five
Step five is intimidating for a lot of people, and rightfully so because you’re sharing all your secrets with someone. When it was my turn, I was comfortable because my sponsor had shared things with me leading up to this point so I felt like it was a two-way effort. Many people are nervous going into
My Fourth Step: Freedom from Hindrance
When I first started going to AA, I always hear people talk about how difficult and intimidating the fourth step is, so I wasn’t very serious about it and just did it because I was told to. I didn’t work any of the steps properly and I wasn’t successful. The second time around, when I
Step Three: Instant Gratification Isn’t Worth the Consequences
When I was finally ready to get sober, meaning I was willing enough to put in the actions that were suggested to me in Step One and Two, Step Three was relatively easy for me. To me, Step Three means you need to have faith that whatever it is that you believe is bigger than
Step Two: What Do You Have to Lose?
What is my biggest piece of advice to those struggling with Step Two? Think about what you really have to lose at this point because chances are you have nothing left. Step two started the first time I tried to get sober. When I was going into treatment, I was agnostic because I really didn’t
Learning Step One the Hard Way
The first time I heard about the 12 Steps was the first time I went to treatment. I saw them on the board and remember thinking, “what is this all about?” Further into my treatment the steps were explained to me, but I never fully grasped the first step. I had my spiritual experience and could