I really dislike the word addict to describe someone. I believe that people are more than just their addiction! Yes, many of my clients are trauma survivors who use (or have used) drugs and alcohol (or food or self-harming behavior) to feel less bad and they are/have been addicted to their drug of choice, but
What to Expect in Your First Year of Recovery
When I was getting sober there was no manual on “What to expect when you are getting sober” as much as I’d like to think there was. Instead, my new life came with a Fellowship, a blue book and a new way to live my life without drugs and alcohol. For me, during my first
Kicking Off the Holiday Season with a Sober Bang!
As Halloween has come and gone, I find myself gearing up for the dreaded Holiday season. Or as some like to call it, The Bermuda Triangle of Holidays: Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s. I personally didn’t care if it was Columbus Day or Christmas Day, any Holiday was good enough reason for me to drink!
How I Heal – A Personal Recovery Story
Healing through recovery for me has been one of the hardest but also one of the most amazing gifts that I’ve received. Before I got sober, there was no healing. No introspection, no looking at my part, and no taking time for me – none of that existed. What did exist was a lot of
Recovery Work Starts With Finding The Self
We know that an addiction is used by an individual to avoid something that is unwanted. The unwanted is related to interpretations and perceptions each client experiences. These include feelings as well as consequences resulting from choices made, relationships formed, and losses incurred. The focus in recovery work assists the client with facing and transforming
9 Ways You Can Help Your Therapist
Are you in therapy or thinking about beginning? Sometimes life presents challenging circumstances, ideas, preferences and feelings; many can be addressed in therapy. It will be especially worth your while if you have undergone some major life events like divorce, other significant loss, illness or lifestyle change. Some people use psychotherapy to understand themselves and
I’ll Be Sober for The Holidays…
Sung to the tune of “I’ll be Home for Christmas” with the same level of nostalgia and hopefulness… This will be my fourth sober holiday season. I am grateful and clear-eyed and, well, nostalgic. Remembering some of the drinking traditions I used to have when I was a partier. That’s the rub for someone like
Choosing Your Friends Wisely in Recovery
My best friend and I quit drinking at the same time. She quit because she was diagnosed with autoimmune hepatitis and I quit because I was a late stage alcoholic. The fact is, she got the liver I deserved, but she didn’t hold it against me. It’s been almost four years now, and our friendship
Putting Yourself First in Recovery
The term self-centered has a negative connotation, and understandably so. In most areas of life, being self-centered is undesirable. In recovery, being self-centered has another meaning – deciding to make yourself a priority and striving to be independent and self-sufficient. When it comes to seeking treatment for a co-occurring disorder, you and your recovery are
The Boy in the Concrete Room: Men and Trauma
Here sits a boy in a concrete room. This room has no windows; this room has no doors. Here sits a boy in a cold, dark room… huddled in a corner, afraid of what will happen next. Here sits a boy in a concrete room. It is not his room, but a construct of ideas