“Into each life some rain must fall,” said Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Those who recently lived through Hurricane Matthew are probably thinking right now that they’ve had enough metaphorical and literal rain for one lifetime. Whether your “flood of rain” comes in the form of a literal deluge, a personal tragedy, or one everyday frustration too
No Time for Happiness? 7 Principles for Embracing Your Limits
Fewer people are “driven to drink” by tragedy than by the everyday stress of “keeping up.” It doesn’t matter whether your daily schedule revolves around entering data into a computer, taking care of children, or volunteering with Habitat for Humanity: just when you think you’ve got a time slot for everything and everything in its
Keep That New Year’s Resolution Year Round: Six Secrets of Keeping Resolutions Fresh
Each year, forty percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions—and eighty percent of resolvers break their resolutions. You may be among those who have never kept a January 1 promise this far into the year—or who have given up the whole idea. The main problem is that New Year’s resolutions only “work” when we do.
Don’t Fool Yourself: What 6 Classic Pranks Teach Us About Rationalization
Did you fall for any April Fool jokes this weekend? You may dislike being the butt of a prank, but most of them are harmless enough. That can’t be said of the rationalizations people use to “fool” themselves into starting or returning to, harmful drugs. Often, as with the classic prank, the trap is extremely
Avoiding Relapse When Life Gets Overwhelming
June is traditionally the month for weddings. It’s also a month when many recent graduates are seeking their first full-time jobs. Either situation means major changes in living situations, responsibilities, daily schedules, and/or budgets—not to mention all the planning, decision-making, and to-do lists that go into making the actual transition happen. Even when they represent
7 Ways to Maintain Hope in Recovery
I remember eagerly, yet timidly, beginning eating disorder recovery. Notebook in hand, I was terrified, ashamed, and I was oh-so-tired. I was ready to be done, or so I thought. I didn’t realize on day 1 that recovery would be a process and I wouldn’t get better with that one notebook. It turns out that
How Does Letting a Newly Sober Addict Dictate Their Treatment Set Them up to Fail?
Keeping a child or loved one comfortable at the beginning of their recovery is an understandable concern for family members to have. But what happens when that comfort comes at the expense of their chances to achieve lasting sobriety? While the concept of empowering an addict in their recovery is important, giving someone too much
What Are We Looking For?
What is addiction? Addiction is an attempt to escape from the suffering an individual is going through. It is one’s own effort to escape their current reality. We are looking for peace within the drug. A drive for peace that kills many of us. Much of addiction is searching for that “destination” that will make
Helping Baby and Mommy Off Opioids
Pregnant and Addicted to Opioids? You might want to read this. Introducing The Positive Direction Model: Opioid Use and Pregnancy, 1st Edition Davina Moss-King, PhD wrote The Positive Direction Model for pregnant women diagnosed with opioid use disorder. The book focuses on women and their newborns, highlighting the opioid epidemic’s impact on the infant’s health
A Half-Truth is a Whole Lie
My journey into recovery began in 2006, almost 10 years ago now. I was 28 years old, married, with a 3-year-old daughter. Back then, I wanted to get sober for all the wrong reasons. Mostly, so that my family would leave me alone about it. At that point in my life, I liked my drinking.