Here’s the good news: I am kinder and gentler after two-plus years of recovery. The bad news? I was pretty awful in the early days of my sobriety: angry at the world and resentful of the pickle I had gotten myself into. On top of that, I’ve written it all down in a daily blog
Drunk Dialing/Texting – 8 Sober Reasons to PUT DOWN THE PHONE
I got an email from a friend the other day. A decidedly chagrinned friend, asking me to write an article about the pitfalls of making a phone call while drunk. He said, “I had a little incident the other night. I received a scathing email from a female friend of mine (maybe no longer a
Regrets of the Alcoholic (Don’t Go There)
In what is probably my least favorite Frank Sinatra song, old blue eyes croons, “Regrets, I’ve had a few – but then again, too few to mention…” Too few to mention? Really? As a recovering alcoholic, I’ve had plenty of regrets to count, and I hate the smugness of the lyric. Sorry Frank. Early in
I’ll Be Sober for The Holidays…
Sung to the tune of “I’ll be Home for Christmas” with the same level of nostalgia and hopefulness… This will be my fourth sober holiday season. I am grateful and clear-eyed and, well, nostalgic. Remembering some of the drinking traditions I used to have when I was a partier. That’s the rub for someone like
Choosing Your Friends Wisely in Recovery
My best friend and I quit drinking at the same time. She quit because she was diagnosed with autoimmune hepatitis and I quit because I was a late stage alcoholic. The fact is, she got the liver I deserved, but she didn’t hold it against me. It’s been almost four years now, and our friendship
Putting Yourself First in Recovery
The term self-centered has a negative connotation, and understandably so. In most areas of life, being self-centered is undesirable. In recovery, being self-centered has another meaning – deciding to make yourself a priority and striving to be independent and self-sufficient. When it comes to seeking treatment for a co-occurring disorder, you and your recovery are
The Boy in the Concrete Room: Men and Trauma
Here sits a boy in a concrete room. This room has no windows; this room has no doors. Here sits a boy in a cold, dark room… huddled in a corner, afraid of what will happen next. Here sits a boy in a concrete room. It is not his room, but a construct of ideas
From the Inside out of Addiction
When you finally recover and see the light on the other side of addiction, you begin to understand and empathize with others struggling with this disease as you begin to see yourself in their every word, their every thought, their every action, when you were in active addiction. When you see another who is living
National Eating Disorders Awareness Week: The people we never hear about.
In honor of eating disorders awareness week, February 22-February 28, 2015, I thought it would be powerful to highlight just a few of the groups of people who suffer from eating and body image disorders that we rarely hear about. In the media, the most common stories on eating disorders often sensationalize anorexia and bulimia in
Is Orthorexia the New Alcoholism?
Orthorexia nervosa is otherwise known as an unhealthy preoccupation with “clean, pure or righteous” eating and exercise. It is not yet a recognized eating disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th Edition), but clinicians are becoming more and more aware of its devastating effects. Orthorexia usually begins with a positive desire